The 10 Rules Your Emotions Follow

  1. Your feelings do not originate from the part of your brain that is under your control. You cannot choose your feelings.

  2. Feelings are not subject to any moral code. They’re neither good nor bad, right or wrong. They just are what they are.

  3. Even though you can’t choose your feelings, you are responsible for them.

  4. Emotions can be “walled off” but they cannot be extinguished. If you wall off an emotion, it does not disappear. It just goes and lives on the other side of the wall.

  5. Feelings can lead you down the right path or they can lead you astray. It all depends on what you do with them.

  6. When you disregard an emotion, you are actually empowering it. Ignoring, pushing away, or walling off a feeling may seem to make it go away but it’s the feelings you’re the least aware of that can affect you without your knowledge.

  7. There is only one way to make an uncomfortable feeling go away, and that is to let yourself feel it. 

  8. Your feelings drive your thoughts, but you can also use your thoughts to manage your feelings.

  9. Sitting with a powerful emotion and letting yourself feel it while thinking about it to understand why you’re having it, what it means, and what it’s telling you, is called “processing it.”

  10. Your feelings are valuable messages from your deepest self. When you follow Rule 9, you are listening to the messages, honoring yourself, and making use of this valuable resource from within.

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